Like many young men, my son trusted a girl he was seeing; when she told him she was on birth control. Little did he know, girls don’t always tell the truth. Nine months later a baby was born. He knows he has nothing to offer a child, a child my son did not want, a child he did not agree to have, and a child he was tricked into conceiving.
Why are men forced to be fathers when they don’t want to be? Why are men forced to pay child support for a child they did not want to have? Why are men allowed to be tricked into being a father? Why are men being punished for having sex?
Janice G. Raymond, a studier of women, thinks that bartering with one’s body is somehow perverse. What she doesn’t realize is that both men and women barter with their bodies on a regular basis, and not just for sex.
There are people that will react to this with outrage and indignation. “How could you?” they will demand, “How could you let someone walk when the evidence shows you that they have committed something as heinous as rape?!”
And the same people, after reading account after account of innocent men being imprisoned, raped, tortured; destroyed, on lies, will reveal the utter depravity of their indifference by refusing to face what is happening or acknowledge that it even matters.
Wait just a damned minute. The idea that sex is something that happens just by the “cooperation” of the woman rules out the idea that mutually consensual sex ever happens in the first place. Two people don’t find themselves attracted to each other and just decide to have sex? The man decides, and the woman only cooperates with him?
Just yesterday, a man died in Brisbane, Australia. He self immolated, reportedly after going through the family court system. Let me repeat that. After experiencing the family court in Australia, the man doused himself with gasoline and set himself afire, resulting in 3rd degree burns to over 90% of his body. The scene was apparently …
One neighbor shouted obscenities and videotaped him whenever he stepped outside his door. The same man came to their home and told Mary Duval he would not quit bothering them till she took her “child rapist” away.
The family law system has evolved, or devolved, depending on how you look at it, into an adversarial theater of the damned, where turpitude and mendaciousness are considered good breeding; where children, fathers and families are exploited as a matter of routine.