We receive a lot of correspondence. We’re often asked the same questions over and over, so we’re releasing an FAQ (Frequently Asked Questions) for the first time.
Q1: Are women really paid less for the same work?
A1: No. The gender wage gap has been repeatedly shown to be a myth. There is a gender earnings gap and we know exactly what causes it. It isn’t discrimination.
Q2: Do women really do more work?
A2: No. OECD data clearly shows that when time in paid and unpaid work are added together gender differences largely disappear in most nations. It’s worth noting that this data does not include commuting which would add more time for men than women.
Q3: Is the MRM conservative?
A3: No. MRAs, and the AVfM team in particular, come from across the political spectrum. Most MRAs eventually reject both sides of politics as they are both gynocentric.
Q4: Is the MRM white supremacist?
A4: Clearly not. Western & Indian MRAs routinely work together and support each other. ICMI23 took place in Pune, India. Robert Brockway spoke at the event. Further, AVfM maintains connections to like-minded people around the world.
Q5: Is the MRM a gateway to white supremacy?
A5: No. How would you even measure that?
Q6: Do you support Andrew Tate?
A6: No, he’s a tradgyn.
Q7: Do you support Jordan Peterson?
A7: No, he’s a tradgyn.
Q8: Are men oppressed in Western countries?
A8: No, neither men nor women are an oppressed class in Western countries. Men, however, have serious issues that need to be addressed. Women have few issues in Western nations. Women in developing nations have issues that need to be addressed but feminists largely ignore these, preferring to focus on trivialities in the West.
Q9: How can you endorse legal parental surrender when you also recognise the importance of fathers in children’s lives?
A9: Not all issues are equally important. Research clearly demonstrates the important role that fathers play in the lives of children. This, though, cannot justify infringing the rights of the individual. A man needs to have comparable reproductive rights to a woman. Individual rights must trump societal need. This is entirely consistent with our focus on individual rights and responsibilities.
A similar argument can be made for mandatory paternity testing. The manner in which countries such as France restrict access to paternity tests in order, in their own words, to keep the family together is nothing short of state sponsored paternity fraud.
We want a society where families stay together but we oppose the use of the law, coercion or deception to make this happen.
Q10: You oppose routine infant circumcision. Are you anti-semitic?
A10: No. Many people who are woke are anti-semitic. The anti-Israel Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions (BDS) movement is closely tied to other woke groups. Don’t believe us? Ask the woke if they believe that Israel has a right to exist inside the borders it had on 4 June 1967. If they say ‘no’ then they want to sweep Israel from the map while chanting from the river to the sea.
We will however criticise Israel where appropriate, such as in the case of No Exit Orders.
Q11: How can you criticise feminism when there are so many different varieties, some of which contradict each other?
A11: On paper there are many variety of feminism. In practice intersectional feminism has been dominant for decades. It is intersectional feminism which has powered identity politics and woke. When we criticise feminism we are criticising the dominant form, intersectional feminism. The other forms of feminism don’t matter.
Q12: Don’t some men report experiencing better sex following a circumcision?
A12: If a man was experiencing phimosis then he may indeed initially appear to experience more sensation than before his circumcision. This would be because the glans was not previously exposed. The glans, however, takes several years to dry out and harden following circumcision. As the glans hardens the man will experience reduced sensation and is more likely to develop other problems such as erectile dysfunction.
Today phimosis can usually be corrected through non-surgical means or through surgery less harmful than circumcision. Thus most men could have the best of both worlds: they could have their phimosis corrected and have a full sexual experience. Alas many doctors are still reaching for the knife too soon.
Further, adult circumcisions are generally less destructive than routine infant circumcision. In the case of adult circumcisions less foreskin is typically taken and the frenulum is usually retained. As such men who experience circumcision as an adult usually retain more sensation than in cases where the procedure was performed as an infant.
Q13: Do you really want women back in the kitchen barefoot and pregnant?
A13: No. We advocate for men and women to be free to choose their own paths in life. Men’s rights has a strong focus on individual rights and responsibilities.
As groups men and women will often make different choices regarding study and work when given the opportunity. Feminists will claim that this is because women are pushed in to certain gender roles. The best counter evidence is to observe human societies. All human societies show general trends regarding the choices that men and women will make. Anthropologists would call these trends “cross-cultural”.
The historical norm in all societies was for men to spend more time working outside of the home while women tended to split their time between working outside of the home, working in the home and caring for children. This continues to the present. Some research suggests that this pattern is even stronger in egalitarian countries.
Feminists often claim they want women to have the right to choose but in practice they often object if women make what they consider to be the wrong choice.
Q14: Is it true that the Southern Poverty Law Center (SPLC) considers A Voice for Men to be a hate site?
A14: No, then yes, then no again.
Before 2018 the claim that the SPLC had declared AVfM to be a hate site was widely and erroneously circulated online. While Producing The Red Pill documentary Cassie Jaye confirmed with the SPLC that they had not classified AVfM as a hate site.
Then in 2018 the SPLC declared AVfM to be a male supremacist hate site after all.
Later still in 2022 SPLC removed AVfM from its list of hate sites because the site was now being operated out of Australia by Robert Brockway. Notably the SPLC added Paul Elam’s new site XY Crew to the list of hate sites at the same time, adding credence to the suggestion that the SPLC is targetting Paul.
Q15: Is it true that Nicholas Alahverdian was previously involved with A Voice for Men? Aren’t you ashamed???
A15: The current management of AVfM has never knowingly interacted with Nicholas Alahverdian. Nicholas Alahverdian was apparently briefly involved with AVfM. Internal documents and databases indicate that his involvement began in late 2013 and ended in early 2014. Records indicate that AVfM published four articles by Nicholas Alahverdian over a period of approximately two months. In early 2014 AVfM ended its association with Nicholas Alahverdian and all of his articles were withdrawn from the site.
Given recent media reports on Nicholas Alahverdian there would surely be more important points to focus on than a web site he was briefly involved with more than a decade ago.
Q16: Do people really ask you these questions?
A16: No. People constantly raise these topics with us but they normally come in the form of accusations. Frequently Made Accusations doesn’t have the same ring to it, though.
