The following was a message from one of my patrons that grew out of our weekly online meetings, and has been adapted into an article for your enjoyment with permission from the author. PE
So – I’m going to miss today’s meeting (9/15/18), as I have to travel from the gynocentric slave-state where I live, to an even more gynocentric slave state, to visit some friends there. In the meantime, you asked last week for thoughts on the idea that guys might feel they are missing something if they aren’t able to engage in reciprocal, healthy relationship with a woman. I think I agree. You know a little bit of my own situation, which I admit in this day-and-age is rare. I am in a medium-term marriage with a wife of 16 years. I’ve noticed at this stage that the long-term pair-bonding process is taking hold, and we both have found contentment in our relationship.
We have lots of good times – stuff I don’t generally talk about during the meetings because I know many of the other guys have been so badly burned, and the last thing they want to hear about is what seems to them pie-in-the-sky relationships with women who don’t exist in any large number. Plus I really enjoy the meetings – listening is fascinating.
When it comes to pair-bonded relationships, I think you are correct. Most guys will feel that are “missing something” going full-monk MGTOW, and they will in fact seek out some sort of relationship with a female, even though in this day the risk is huge, and disasters abound. When I am asked by younger men and women for advice on marriage, what I say usually pisses off most of the women and encourages the men. This is understandable. To be successful, long-term, pair-bonded relationships between men and women must enhance the man’s independence and authority. They must feature male and female in proper evolutionary alignment, with the man leading and the woman following.
Why is this? It has to do with how a boy becomes a man, and what he achieves in doing so. A boy is formed in the body of a woman, is born into the world of women, and there he remains until he matures. During this time, he is completely dependent on his mother and other women for everything — at the beginning even for the food that sustains his growth. As he matures, he struggles to leave this world and become independent of it. He fights for his ability to take care of himself, make his own decisions, and choose his direction in life. At least that is how it is supposed to be.
If a boy completes the rites of passage, the trials, and the necessary lessons to become an independent man, why the hell would he want to return to the world of women, to once again be subject to them? The only answer I can find is heterosexual desire. If it weren’t for that, I think 99% of men would have nothing to do with women. When a man gives up his independence and authority over his own life to once again become subject to a woman, all sorts of bad crap happens.
I think of my own situation. I wasn’t looking for a woman to shelter me, to take care of me, or do any of the things that feminists claim a woman does in a “healthy relationship.” I had already achieved independence, and I had a very successful career as a businessman. When I married, I had built and was running a 200-person company with annual revenues of $40 million. I didn’t need a woman to help me do that.
Still, something was missing. I was looking to fill a void that I decided could only be filled by being the head of a family. I went looking for a woman to do that with, and my wife and I found each other. She also wanted a family, and had been living successfully on her own, teaching in the New York City public schools. Having had enough of teaching other people’s kids, she wanted to raise her own. There is also a religious component – we were (and still are) both orthodox Christians, and we wanted an orthodox family life. She was not interested in emasculating me; to have her feminist way with me. In fact, we decided beforehand to follow the very traditional path of me providing for the family both spiritually and physically, while she raised babies. That has worked well for us. As was discussed last week, our scriptures (Ephesians 5:22+) are very clear on how families are organized and how husbands and wives relate to each other.
Husbands love their wives, and give their very lives for them, with the intention of making them holy. Wives fully submit to their husbands in all things, and they must show respect at all times for their husband’s sacrifice. This is a great arrangement for both. We believe that God gives the husband grace to lead his family, and we believe he will reward a faithful wife who follows.
When it comes to alpha [f]ucks and beta bucks, the scriptures are right on the money. Women love to have sex with the bad boy, but they want the provider to take care of them and their children. Well, nothing drives the dominance that a wife loves in her husband like her willing submission to him, and this in turn helps the husband resist becoming beta-male, emasculated cuck, which is the distortion that occurs when the husband sacrifices and the wife greedily abuses him.
So, to wrap it up – if men want to be fulfilled in their relationships with women, they should look for women who are going to submit to their will, and take their leadership. They should cultivate these qualities in themselves so they will attract the kind of woman that will make them happy. Then they should watch all your videos and realize that such a woman is incredibly rare in our culture, and they are likely to get screwed if they get married. And that’s sad.