In 2019, I drove from Minneapolis to Chicago to meet with the leadership of the International Conference on Men’s Issues. Black comedian Tommy Sotomayor had been booked as a keynote speaker.
The conference was the largest ever gathering of its kind (500 people) so it was difficult to get one on one time with leadership. I finally got an opportunity to speak to Paul Elam of “A Voice for Men,” the internet’s oldest website dedicated to mens’ issues.
“If your movement was legitimate, Paul, it’d be almost entirely Black men,” I accused.
Paul responded, “I know” then he paused, “but it is legitimate,” he responded, “and it’s just a matter of time before everyone realizes it.”
I knew what he meant. The previous year, I’d invited several Black men to a screening of the “Red Pill Movie” being hosted by the Twin Cities Men’s Center. The TCMC makes the bulk of their money facilitating court-ordered Duluth Model based anger management, inspired by the Women’s Movement.
Many of the Black men I’d invited were deeply leery. They’d heard about the type of court-ordered, Marxist Feminist inspired, training being offered by these types of state sponsored centers.
As a rule, Black men resent being taught about relationships with women by other men who’ve never had intimate relationships with women. Few enjoy being offered a sliding fee scale to be told they are conditioned in a patriarchy to rape and oppress women using a spectrum of violence.
The Duluth Model is the most pervasive domestic violence and anger management tool in the world.
Still, one of the men I invited showed up and sat in the front row where he was greeted with gratitude during opening announcements. They were happy so many showed up to the viewing and they were happy to see Black men attending.
He was the only one.
My friend walked out about 3/4 of the way through the movie, which addresses the issues men face, as a legal class. Among them, false accusations of rape, sentencing disparity, depression, homelessness, shorter life expectancy, greater risk of drug abuse, suicide, and legal genital mutilation.
When I asked him later, why he left, he said, it made him sick to, “listen to all of that whiny white boy shit.”
This sentiment is shared by many who believe that white men do not encounter discrimination in family courts, police encounters, health and counseling services, on the operating table, or in the workplace.
The data shows a different story.
The Chicago International Conference on Men’s Issues had many sessions dedicated to the Duluth Model and some on the effects Marxist Feminism has had on family courts and families.
In his keynote on the importance of fathers, Sotomayor warned, “The Black Community is the canary in the coal mine in regards to the effects of fatherlessness. Increased teen pregnancy, lower test scores, dropouts, and crime. All that stuff started when they started taking fathers out of the house.”
Sotomayor stunned the crowd “Everything you see in the Black Community, now you’re starting to see in the suburbs. Look at the school shootings, all white, and of the last 25, 24 were from female led households.”