“In the end, I really didn’t have a choice, even though I didn’t do what my ex-wife said I did. That, however, was of little concern to the career-minded police, prosecutor, defense attorney, and judge involved in my case.”
Is anyone, male or female, truly “strong and independent?” John Ribner takes on this mentality, especially as it pertains to today’s cliche of the “strong, independent woman.”
Why did you stay with her? It’s a question asked of men who have endured relationships with highly abusive women. John Ribner tells his story.
Journalist and author John P. Ribner was at the First International Conference on Men’s Issues, and after few encounters with reporters, found his time better spent talking to other people.
When imagining a typical domestic violence perpetrator, many bring to mind the face of a man contorted with rage… but what if the face of the abuser does not belong to a male? John Ribner describes the face of the female abuser.
There is no pain greater than the loss of a child. Especially a child who has been turned against you. Like a message in a bottle, John Ribner has a message he hopes his girl will one day see.
We like to tell people, men in particular, to “get over it” when they’ve suffered some sort of trauma. But the process of getting over it is rarely helped by such flippant words.
In the American “justice system” the accused frequently find themselves offered a “plea bargain”–plead guilty to a lesser crime, in exchange for a lighter sentence. The deal often sounds good at the time. Until you realize the price will include interest over time that you can never repay.