This video is probably the best explanation of how men feel and act when it comes to commitment. It does a great job of explaining the male psyche, as well as dismantling mainstream shaming methods.
The greatest point it makes is to describe the difference in incentive and reward that men and women get from commitment, as well as the different dreams that men and women have.
The video is made by a guy called Tom Golden. He is in my opinion the most intelligent and insightful psychotherapist I have ever spoken with. And he is an incredible, but under recognized asset to men in western culture. He’s also a great asset to women, too, if they are fortunate enough to accept his wisdom.