Notice: if you have evidence of the name of the Connecticut high school where Leah Bakely teaches sexual education, please contact this site.
If ever there was a question as to where the world would receive its supply of rape hysteria, ready-made with all its due-process-be-damned dismissals of the presumption of innocence, its sneering denial of the harm false accusations cause to the wrongly accused, and its promotions of false rape accusations by its now-iconic shtick of “this isn’t really rape but I’m going to call it rape anyway,” have no fear: Huffington Post College is sure to provide.
Now, instead of some insane rambling by Lulu Chang at Dartmouth about how every male student who is acquitted MUST be a rapist (why? Because they’re male, of course), instead of Tyler Kingkade telling us that an art statue of a sleepwalking man in underwear at Wellesley is somehow “pro-rape,” and instead of Soraya Chemali telling us how UCONN’s sports team’s mascot (a husky) promotes “rape culture,” we are treated to this article by high school sex ed teacher Leah Bakely.
The title of it is innocent enough: “Why every student should know the definition of consent.” To kick off her article she even charitably provides us with a dictionary definition:
Of course every student – and every person, for that matter – should understand the definition of consent. But given how often your everyday man and woman’s consent is a Feminist’s rape, and given that those who dominate the discourse on gender issues (especially at Huffington Post College) so often lean in the Feminist direction, the delicacy and importance of the issue requires us to examine what the author actually means when she says the word “consent.”
So what is Ms. Bakely’s definition of consent? Let’s dig in.
The absence of a ‘no’ is NOT explicit consent.
True enough. But let’s be careful to remember that the absence of a verbal “yes” does not in and of itself mean “no,” either. And yet, as we’ll see later, this is exactly what she thinks.
Explicit consent CANNOT be obtained if either partner is under the influence of any drug (alcohol is no exception)…
And there you are wrong, Ms. Bakely. Indeed, if such is the case, I myself have been raped many times over. And so has virtually everyone I know.
There is no such thing as “tipsy rape,” and Ms. Bakely and her fellow purveyors of rape hysteria should know better. If someone is incapacitated (that’s the magic word) by alcohol – for example, totally wasted and passed out – then no, consent is not present. But there’s a difference between being “under the influence” of alcohol and being “incapacitated.”
I guess to Ms. Bakely, every romantic dinner involving wine is just a rape waiting to happen. Wouldn’t you love to date her? Or perhaps a woman just like her?
Explicit consent is — and is only — the presence of enthusiastic and voluntary “yes” on the parts of both partners.
No, no, no. In absolutely no legal code do we see a requirement that consent be “enthusiastic.” Nor do we see a requirement of a verbal “yes.” Again, if such were the case, I and many of my male friends and family members have been raped hundreds of times over.
If such were the case, then I can’t help but wonder how I would recover from the shock of knowing that – at one point – someone consented to having sex with me, but she wasn’t hyperventilating and screaming “OH MY GOD, OH MY GOD” every second like a porn star. And how do I come to terms with the fact that I have consented to sex in the past, but it hasn’t been with raging enthusiasm?
It seems that there’s so much rape to go around that everyone’s a rape victim nowadays.
As I said after Goshen College declared that all men who merely stare at women are committing “psychological rape,” we’re all rapists now. Every one of us. Which means that rape isn’t anything special or unique. On the contrary, it’s something every adult – male and female – has experienced at one point in their life.
So if someone comes up to you and says “I’m a rape victim,” what’s the appropriate response? None other than this:
So what? Isn’t everybody?
And that is an entirely reasonable response – in the kind of world where everything is rape. A world where rape itself has lost all meaning. The kind of world these people want to create.
As usual, Feminists & Friends blame everyone else for the trivialization of rape, even as they go about trivializing rape as a matter of course. It doesn’t matter to them. Whatever demonizes men and gives women power in the short term. That is the only thing they really care about. Not men. Not women. And – in the long run – not rape victims.
We aren’t done yet, however. There is more that can be gained from this article. She continues:
And that should tell you exactly where she is getting this warped idea of what rape is and isn’t: our institutions of “higher education.” Aren’t they supposed to teach students how to think, not what to think? Or have they instead “progressed” beyond that?
Oh, don’t worry Ms. Bakely; you’ve probably sexually assaulted many people in your lifetime. You just won’t know it until someone tells you a new definition of consent. A definition you haven’t heard before, because it isn’t the real definition.
Just like what you’re doing with us right now.
And this is why we deconstruct such lies here (see the recently posted video). Whenever you broaden the definition of rape, all of a sudden everyone is a “victim.” And that’s exactly how people arrive at these ludicrous numbers.
Sadly, in many high schools, discussions about consent and communication are noticeably absent from curricula. In my experience teaching sex ed. to high school students in Connecticut, I’ve found that these students can often barely comprehend what it would even mean to consent to a sexual activity.
In other words, they can barely comprehend how an insane person like Leah Bakely would have a job as an educator, attempting to indoctrinate them into her definition of sexual consent. They can barely comprehend this because, in this messed-up age we live in, students today are living in greater psychological proximity to the real world than many of their teachers.
But let’s remember: some students will unfortunately believe what their teacher is telling them is correct. Some students are still rather naive and impressionable, and look upon people like Ms. Bakely as authority figures. They will go out into the world and into their relationships with these definitions – Leah Bakely’s definitions – of sexual assault. They will have consensual sex.
And then they will cry rape and wreck some young man’s life. If they don’t falsely cry rape based upon the consensual experiences they’ve already had after they were
educated indoctrinated out of them by their teacher.
This is why we need to watch what these people are doing. Academia – in the humanities especially – is churning out people like Leah Bakely left and right. They deserve to be put on full-blast for all the world to see.
There is no doubt in my mind that many sexual assaults — and not just those that occur on college campuses — would be prevented if more people knew the definitions of explicit consent and sexual assault.
On the contrary; there is not a doubt in my mind that many false rape accusations would be made against innocent people if more people accepted her way of thinking. I won’t stand for it. And if you value the well-being of men and boys as much as the well-being of women and girls, you won’t either.
Again: if you have evidence of the name of the Connecticut high school where Leah Bakely teaches sexual education, please contact this site.
This item reprinted from A Voice for Male Students.–DE