An Inconvenient Truth

In a time of endless lies, propaganda and deceit a brief glimpse of the truth is indeed a moment to celebrate.

There have been whispers about sexual abuse and grooming in our AFLW competition for sometime but they have remained whispers due to the reluctance of our media to investigate the claims and expose the truth. But why would our media be so reluctant to break such a sensational story?

The W is the key here.

The women’s AFL competition is branded the AFLW.

Does it contradict a narrative which has been rammed down our throats for years?

Masculinity is toxic.

Where men gather in numbers you will find abuse and deviant behaviour.

Women are always victims of male deviancy and violence.

Women do not sexually abuse or rape.

Women do not bully or groom young victims.

Women do not lie?

 

The AFLW story is yet to be published or alluded to by any media outlet.

But yesterday another story about rampant grooming and abuse exploded and was presented in one of our biggest newspapers.

The Matildas are Australia’s women’s national soccer team. What did the headline on the front page of the Herald Sun scream?

Star claims Abuse, Bullying Rife in Toxic Women’s Soccer!

The article begins:

Australian women’s football stars have revealed a toxic culture within the sport that includes allegations of indecent assault, sexual harassment, bullying and grooming.

Among the claims are an incident in which Matilda’s legend Lisa De Vanna alleges a teammate pulled her down from behind and she was dry humped.

Lisa De Vanna

There needs to be consequences,” DeVanna told the Herald Sun.

There needs to be accountability.”

Have I been sexually harassed? Yes. Have I been bullied? Yes. Ostracised? Yes. Have I seen things which made me uncomfortable? Yes.”

Former Matilda Elissia Carnavas witnessed what De Vanna endured.

They targeted Lisa,” Carnavas said.

It was a big joke. They were trying to provoke her by sexually harassing her and making her feel uncomfortable.”

In any sporting organization and in any environment, grooming, preying and unprofessional behaviour makes me sick.”

De Vanna also highlighted another inappropriate moment away from the sporting field.

There was a time I was asked to join two girls in the shower rubbing soap on each other. I told them to fuck off and they laughed and said, “You know you want to join us.”

The recently retired, 150 cap veteran took to social media at the weekend to respond to a tweet from US soccer superstar Megan Rapinoe who was commenting on allegations of sexual harassment in the NWSL.

Rapinoe had tweeted: “Men protecting men who abuse women.”

De Vanna tweeted back:

“ I agree @mPinoe but I have witnessed W my eyes:

-Women protecting women who abuse players

-Players protecting senior players who abuse younger players.

-Organisations protecting coaches/players who abuse players.

Abuse is abuse. Poor behaviour is poor across all boards!”

This story has a particularly intoxicating aroma and it is especially uplifting in today’s world in which the stench of the rotting carcass of truth pollutes the very air we breathe.

Someone has dared to lift the veil for a brief time and allowed us to glimpse reality.

De Vanna said, “I was pulled down from behind and dry humped by a few of my teammates. I fought my way off the floor kicking and screaming. They thought it was funny,” she said. “I was just a young kid from Perth. I didn’t know any different. I lost my shit and wanted to punch them.”

Former W-League star Rhali Dobson has also claimed she was a target of predatory behaviour.

Dobson who played for Melbourne City, NewCastle Jets, the Young Matildas and Matildas during a 13 year career, said the pressure off the field outweighed the pressure on it.

Initially why I made myself so feminine was because I was trying to keep people away from me,” Dobson said. “I know what it was like when I was younger. I didn’t want to even have a shower after the game. I’d wait until I got back to my room. There were a couple of us young ones in the same boat.

A lot of it is pushed under the rug. It was a case of grooming when I first came on the scene because I was asked, “Do I prefer boys or girls?”

I said I liked boys and remember just looking down at the ground and all of the laughter and being told, “We’ll change that soon enough.

As you get higher up in the levels when it comes to the national circuit. If you don’t fit in with the crowd you won’t make it. It’s a world that’s very much still going on, in the world at the top levels, and until you start addressing this nothing is going to change.”

Former head of corporate affairs and football whistle blower Bonita Mersiades called on FA to conduct a fresh probe into De Vanna’s claims.

They cannot, and should not be ignored-and nor should they be examined in isolation of issues that are happening elsewhere, such as the USA and Canada,” she said in a letter from Women in Sport.

We therefore urge you to establish an independent external inquiry into the culture of women’s football in Australia to ensure that the environment is safe and happy for all girls and women.”

I find it quite astonishing that the endless lies about family violence and sexual abuse have been so artfully presented as abuse exclusively perpetrated by males.

Anyone with the most basic intelligence would know this is an absurd proposition simply based upon their lived experience. I see almost daily clips of “Karens” exploding in rage because somebody took their parking space or a retailer failed to provide them with an item they desired. I have seen “Karens” blatantly and hysterically scream that they are the victim in situations where they are the obvious perpetrator. I have seen “Karens” use the threat of the allegation of rape in order to avoid paying a taxi fare.

These are not isolated incidents. There are hundreds of such examples on film. This is clearly the tip of a very deep iceberg. How can any person with an average IQ not quickly surmise that the chances that these violent psychopaths who exhibit their rage and violence in public while being filmed would be very likely to be exhibiting this same psychopathic behaviour behind closed doors with their partners and children?

But women are never cited as perpetrators of child murder and abuse and they never lie even as we read of yet another child who has been strangled, stabbed or drowned by their mummy.

Yet we continue to see advertisements and campaigns depicting men ( and only men) raging and threatening women over the most minor issue- an undercooked dinner or untidy house. From the endless hours of footage of women going on racist rants on public transport to women destroying property or assaulting people in burger shops one must begin to believe women are far more likely to erupt and explode over very minor irritations.

We live in a lie.

Every day.

Revelations of sexual harassment, grooming and sexual assault in all female environments does not shock or surprise anyone with intelligence. The only shock one feels is the fact that one journalist chose to report on the issue when so many others have deliberately covered up the truth.

Every news story seems to be presented with one aim. That aim is supporting whatever the narrative may be at any given time. It is always an anti-male narrative. It simply takes different forms at different times.

The fact that men and women in positions of power and authority can use the words toxic masculinity with impunity is proof enough of the bigotry and hatred our mainstream media, governments and education system has for men and boys.

We remain the only demographic to be singled out as poisonous and dangerous due to our immutable characteristics- the very essence of what makes us who we are.

It is evil. Shameful.

Stories like this one simply confirm what thinking human beings have always known. No gender has a monopoly on evil behaviour any more than one gender has cornered the market on honesty, compassion and generosity.

Yet we know, despite the facts readily available to anyone who claims to be interested in the victims of family violence or partner abuse, that the lies will continue to be promoted by our government, education system and media.

I have long known that lesbian relationships are the most likely to be violent and abusive but this fact has for some reason never been discussed or given prominence in any discussion of family/partner violence. Why? The narrative my dear readers! The narrative.

Isn’t it a revelation to discover that placing two women together and allowing them to live with each other in a confined space will lead to a high level of violent abuse, far higher than when two men (those who purportedly have toxic masculinity oozing through their veins) choose to co-habitate.

This is not logical if one believes the current zeitgeist.

Truth is irrelevant. Truth is unnecessary. Truth is expendable in the world we live in today. Technology allows the Lie to be spewed into the mouths of countless babes who willingly swallow it and chirp for more.

Read the truth for yourself. It’s been out there for a long time.

What is lesbian partner violence?
Partner violence in lesbian (and gay) relationships recently has been identified as an important social problem. Partner or domestic violence among lesbians has been defined as including physical, sexual and psychological abuse, although researchers have most often studied physical violence.

How common is lesbian partner violence?
About 17-45% of lesbians report having been the victim of a least one act of physical violence perpetrated by a lesbian partner (1,5,6,13). Types of physical abuse named by more than 10% of participants in one study included:

  • Disrupting other’s eating or sleeping habits
  • Pushing or shoving, driving recklessly to punish, and slapping, kicking, hitting, or biting (11).
  • Sexual abuse by a woman partner has been reported by up to 50% of lesbians (12).
  • Psychological abuse has been reported as occurring at least one time by 24% to 90% of lesbians (1,5,6,11,14).

The research usually has been done with mostly white, middle-class lesbians who are sufficiently open about their sexual orientation to have met researchers seeking participants in the lesbian community. Subsequently, these findings may not apply to women who are less open, less educated, or of other ethnic backgrounds.

Why would a lesbian batter another woman?
Lesbians who abuse other women may do so for reasons similar to those that motivate heterosexual male batterers. Lesbians abuse their partners to gain and maintain control (9). Lesbian batterers are motivated to avoid feelings of loss and abandonment. Therefore, many violent incidents occur during threatened separations. Many lesbian batterers grew up in violent households and were physically, sexually, or verbally abused and/or witnessed their mothers being abused by fathers or stepfathers (6,7,14).

How is lesbian partner violence different from heterosexual partner violence?
There are several similarities between lesbian and heterosexual partner violence. Violence appears to be about as common among lesbian couples as among heterosexual couples (1,5). In addition, the cycle of violence occurs in both types of relationships. However, there also are several differences.

In lesbian relationships, the “butch” (physically stronger, more masculine or wage-earning) member of the couple may be as likely to be the victim as the batterer, whereas in heterosexual relationships, the male partner (usually the stronger, more masculine, and wage-earning member) is most often the batterer (4). Some lesbians in abusive relationships report fighting back in their relationship (6,8).

Intimate partner violence in lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, intersex and queer communities: Key issues | Child Family Community Australia (aifs.gov.au)

People who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, intersex or queer (LGBTIQ) experience intimate partner violence at similar rates as those who identify as heterosexual.

There has been an invisibility of LGBTIQ relationships in policy and practice responses and a lack of acknowledgement that intimate partner violence exists in these communities.

Lesbian women were more likely than gay men to report having been in an abusive same-sex relationship (41% and 28% respectively);

26% of respondents had experienced sexual assault within a same-sex relationship (Leonard et al., 2008).

Rate of Domestic Violence Highest in Lesbian Relationships | The Wentworth Report

Rate of Domestic Violence Highest in Lesbian Relationships. It’s a PC myth that domestic violence is all about men hurting women in heterosexual relationships. It’s not. Women dish out a lot of violence too, including against kids. Despite convincing studies for decades now, this still seems to surprise people — once again demonstrating the willingness and power of the media to propagate a PC agenda. Keep an eye out for how the domestic violence meme is used — such as to put down straight men.

Domestic violence has become a “silent epidemic” in the gay and lesbian community despite being the subject of increasing scrutiny in heterosexual relationships, according to the AIDS Council of NSW.

by JD Glass.

The National Violence Against Women survey found that 21.5 percent of men and 35.4 percent of women living with a same-sex partner experienced intimate-partner physical violence in their lifetimes, compared with 7.1 percent and 20.4 percent for men and women, respectively, with a history of only opposite-sex cohabitation. Transgender respondents had an incidence of 34.6 percent over a lifetime according to a Massachusetts survey. …

These studies refute the myths that only straight women get battered, that men are never victims, and that women never batter …

Abuse is not about violence; it’s about control,” says Beth Leventhal, executive director of The Network/La Red in Boston. “You can be just as controlling of someone if you are small — as if you’re large. It’s about using violence or any other means of gaining and maintaining control.”

I have long since given up on the idea that the tsunami of bullshit which tumbles out of the mouths of feminists in positions of great power and privilege can ever be halted. The best I can do is know the truth for myself and the handful of people who seek it.

If we each do our best to tell the truth to those we love and those we encounter at work or socially, we have done all we can be expected to do and that means we can rest our heads upon our pillows each night and look into a mirror without feeling a wave of revulsion envelope our soul.

One more time. Read the truth.

These studies refute the myths that only straight women get battered, that men are never victims, and that women never batter …

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