November is a month to grow a mustache, if you don’t always have one, to help raise awareness of men’s health issues, including deadly ones like Prostate Cancer. Dan Perrins has a tearful recollection of his father’s ordeal with this deadly disease.
It’s day 31 of Domestic Violence Awareness Month for Men and Boys, the invisible victims of domestic violence, the last day of these offerings for this year. In this one, Dr. T brings us a different kind of abuse to examine, one rooted in lies, deception and abusive manipulation.
“Grown Man Gets Beat With A Belt By Two Women After He Is Caught Cheating” – that’s the title of this “funny” video, though no evidence that he was cheating is presented and of course, the question of whether that’s even relevant does not even get asked.
Getting involved with her was the worst decision I ever made, and the second worse decision was not spending every dime to get full custody of him from the beginning. He’s been damaged, I’ve been damaged, and even my current wife is suffering because of my bad decisions.
One night prior to a wedding I was in (that she was invited to) she went absolutely stark raving mad – slamming doors, screaming at me that I was a “lying, cheating prick.”
“I met her through work and, by all accounts, it seemed like the most normal relationship I ever had. We went for walks in the park, had coffee together and spent hours on the phone talking about everything.”
She said the time to journal was when I was at work and this was not the time for it. When I got to the twelfth time I said, ‘I have asked a dozen times to leave my room and you are preventing me from moving freely and this is a right I have.’ She replied, ‘Oh I see how it is. Well you might as well start packing,’ and she finally stepped aside.
“Six months into our marriage, I was taking a nap. I was on winter break from college and she was working. Typically, she would call me two to three times a day, which I now know was about her abandonment and control issues. She was checking up on me even then. She called, heard the grogginess in my voice and literally ripped me a new asshole. ‘How dare you take a nap while I’m here hard at work?! You are such an insensitive, selfish prick!'”
“She kicked, scratched and slapped me regularly. As time passed, her physical violence escalated and became more frequent. The objects she threw at me became bigger, harder and heavier.”
“My mom used to go on beating frenzies and actually beat some of my friends, too. I stopped playing little league sports because I got tired of looking at the bench and seeing her rolling in the dirt with some other parent.”
