Dealing with violent, abuse women is not just a men’s issue. Women are also affect, as are the men they love. Dr. T brings us a story from Marian, on Day 4 of her daily October postings for Domestic Violence Awareness Month.
A question for male readers. Have you ever argued with a woman who was increasingly abusive but then pointed the finger at your anger as the problem when you quit putting up with it? You may be experiencing DARVO. Dr. Tara Palmatier gives us an overview on this “problem with no name.” that now has one.
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. As she did last year, Dr, Tara Palmatier of shrink4men.com will be sharing a daily post with readers aimed at increasing awareness of the untold part of the domestic violence issue: Abused men. Each personal story reveals one person’s tragedy, and the series reveals the tragedy of how poorly this society reactions to abused men.
How do abusive women get away with it? Dr. T. explains.
“Our eyes met across a crowded room. As trite as it sounds, that is how I met the woman who became my wife and my abuser… the Hungarian Horntail.”
“I met her through work and, by all accounts, it seemed like the most normal relationship I ever had. “
“Absolutely, unequivocally, as soon as the words, ‘I can tell…’ have been uttered, I know I’m in for a ride on the roller coaster of emotional insanity.”
“Why was a fellow student phoning me up and asking to meet at the police station? What was it that he couldn’t discuss over the phone?”
I broke down. I couldn’t even look myself in the eye anymore. I truly believed that D was right. I was a monster. “A monster who was so horribly scarred that could never be loved or be healed”, as D put it.
I remember waking up to my head being slammed against the wall, causing me to have a goose egg on my forehead for about two weeks. When I looked over, D acted like she was sleeping.
